Comments on: Eight Tips To Save Your Marriage To A Gamer

By: kyle

kyle — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 18:29:22 +0000

loved this. especially the elf bit

By: wow widowing 101

wow widowing 101 — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:37:44 +0000

I figure that as a gamer’s wife there are things that I have to put up with and being able to talk to my husband is one of those things we do every few years so it is all good I guess. even with days like sunday with no gaming he catches up on all the sleep he has missed through out the week gaming and I was looking frward to the tuesday patch but thjat isn’t even a reason for him to get off WOW. I know what agro means and all those wow terms that sound worce to me then chat speak but this is my life so I choose to stay married the first 11 years were ok I guess the game can have him for the next 11 years. I just hope he realizes that he needs to attend the kids graduations and weddings and if he doesn’t like the sposes he children have choosen the wedding is too late to say anything about it.

By: NickolaH

NickolaH — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:32:42 +0000

Maybe I have no business commenting on this at all as I’m not married to a gamer, but I am dating one. I myself am a gamer as well so I understand the principles. I understand that he has scheduled raid times with certain friends and guild members. I get just as irritated by people referring to the entire broad scope of gaming as escapist and unhealthy.

Still, he DOES allow games to interfere with ‘real life’ a lot more than just forgetting to spend time with me. We are attending university and he has a lot more important things to do than game (please don’t attack me for that statement). He puts off homework, he stays up all night and is tired through class (or doesn’t go), he forgets to get food until the caf is closed. Still, some of you hardcore gamers may completely understand his situation. (alas, I’m a bit more casual than that. I play FPSs, RPGs, and the occasional MMORPG, but nothing that consumes more than a few hours of my week)

Seeing as how I’m not his wife, (we have been dating for several months and before that we were friends for quite a while before that), do I have the right to ask certain things of him? I have tried to persuade (keyword, I know better than demand or order, it’s not my place and it wouldn’t help anyway) him to make a more structured gaming schedule, one that allows him to sleep and do homework (and yes….spend a little time with me). And was met with indignant grumbles and promises to do that. I do care about him and his gaming doesn’t leave me feeling neglected exactly (forgotten dates on occasion are a little hurtful) I just wish he could manage it with the rest of his life a little more.

So, tell me honestly. Do I have the right to ask anything of him and is there any advice anybody can give me concerning this?

Also, good article. Makes a lot of sense without placing all the blame on the nongamer (like I’ve seen similar articles do).

By: Kellyg

Kellyg — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 21:19:27 +0000

Thank goodness my husband and I are both gamers.

By: anna

anna — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:46:44 +0000

My boyfriend introduced me to WoW but he never plays anymore–only DoTA. All the time. WoW is not nearly as fun anymore, I cannot play DoTA although I’ve tried. What should I do?
Incidentally I found this article while searching for elf ears for my night elf halloween costume. Is that a bad sign?

By: Belkiolle

Belkiolle — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:51:23 +0000

My wife and I both game but I’ve still used the “my wife’s standing here in next to nothing. I’m out” excuse and it’s always been a no regret needed log out. If you can’t seperate between real life situations and game situations then you need to take a step back from gaming for a bit. The claim that there are 39 other people depending on you and your wife is taking you away from them is damn retarded. There are people out there to fill your spot in that raid. If you don’t take care of her then your wife is going to find someone else to fill her spot if you get my drift. I’ll happily log out anytime. The fact that anyone could place equal status on a raid in WoW and a business meeting scares the living hell out of me. Hopefully I won’t be around to see the world created by such attitudes.

Phaltran’s computer upgrade strategy is pretty well what we employ as well but it doesn’t really matter because my wife doesn’t care about what her computer has in it as long as her games are playable at 40+ FPS. I’m the one who compulsively “has to have” cutting edge gear and she’s understanding of that. She more than makes up for it on other things she buys believe me.

I disagree with the assertion that gaming is the only hobby that requires brain function too. I’d hate to think what would happen to me if I turned off my brain while routing a project in the wood shop or just decided not to think about what I was doing when restoring a car. Even watching sports (and I love watching baseball) for me is a very active. I’m always running through pitch counts, pitch selection, proper plays, etc. in my head. Even though the last time I caught a game was in high school about 10 years ago I still view every game through a catcher’s eyes and that’s not inactive. There’s always second guessing manager’s decisions and working strategies around in your head as well.

By: Osama

Osama — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 16:05:33 +0000

I love gaming, but people seriously need to make sure their families come first.

By: joe

joe — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 07:22:11 +0000

And REDUCTIVE while it may be a word is still pedantic and lame.

By: joe

joe — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 07:21:03 +0000

REDUCIVE is not a word you dumbass!

By: Lilytoes

Lilytoes — Wed, 21 May 2008 13:54:38 +0000

For the record – I will never ever go to a con dressed as anything other than myself. Unless… I can fulfill an expensive dream and go as a Fremen – realistic stillsuit and blue on blue contact lenses. Hope that’s not been tainted by any whorishness /knocks on wood

I am a female gamer and I’ve dated other gamers. I think the issue I’ve faced with my SOs has been spending too much time in our virtual world. We’ve skipped many occasions of doing non-gamer dating stuff: movies, dinner out, and parties. Too much of one thing is bad for a relationship even if both partners are involved. Fresh air and sunshine are good for relationships.